Chipping Away Choice

A pro-choice, pro-family mom speaks against Virginia's amendment requiring ultrasounds for abortions.

I thought about writing something noncontroversial for this month's column—perhaps 99 ways to soothe a fussy baby (I wish I knew!) or Ashburn's unknown toddler artists. But last month, I got angry comments after giving tips for . I was reminded that I can’t make everyone happy all the time, so here's what's on my mind:

What the heck is wrong with this state? Gov. McDonnell just signed what is arguably the most invasive bill we've seen into law. Instead of getting into how this is blatant disrespect and violation of patient rights, I'll focus on what the about the new law: “The women and unborn children of Virginia owe a debt of thanks to [McDonnell] and the General Assembly for supporting this pro-woman law.”

I understand how they're protecting embryos and fetuses. I don't agree, but I understand the logic. What I don't get is how anti-choice people claim this law helps women. At its best, it assumes women are too stupid to know we have a sac with an embryo inside our wombs when pregnant, that we must be shown pictures.

At its worst, it tortures women who have already made a difficult decision, makes the experience far more traumatic, slows down what should be a timely procedure, and costs someone (taxpayers? insurance companies? Who's paying for this anyway?) thousands in needless medical bills.

I'm sick of being told I need to be protected from myself. The government isn’t stepping in to stop battered women from going back to abusive spouses. This is not about women's safety or health. This is about elevating the rights of embryos over the rights of women. And this is wrong.

Author's note: These are my views and this is an opinion column. Patch does not necessarily share my views on this matter.

Hal Mahaffey March 19, 2012 at 06:25 PM
You get yelled at for suggesting parents lighten up and have fun with their kids by swapping roles with the babysitter (and get a ridiculous lecture on how horrid babysitters really are, entirely missing your point), so you decide to go for something "safe" like abortion!?? :-D I'm impressed, Nicole! You are fearless AND fun! Keep speaking your mind, girl! :)
Nicole Skuba March 20, 2012 at 01:26 AM
Thanks, Hal!
Grant Irvin April 03, 2012 at 09:45 PM
I have been saying, since this new wave of anti-choice legislation started up, that the sub-contet is "women are clearly incapable of making a proper decision" and need to be helped to "understand" what they are doing. THe funny thing is the emperical evidence shows men making irrationdecision far more than women (Clinton, Spitzer, Weiner, Gingrich, etc) so where do we men get off with this line of thinking?
Nicole Skuba April 06, 2012 at 05:11 PM
That's a good question, Grant! I think it comes back to human nature. Male or female, people tend to think their own ideas are the best. I wish those people would stop trying to run others' lives though.


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